There are some out there that are sooooo new it hurts.
Like shoes, they squeek when they walk.

This one posted to me several times on bcom... and was politely rebuffed... he was not too bad, and almost had a chance for coffee.
Then he pulled an IM.



(i have changed the handle to X as a gesture)...

[22:31] x: greetings slave
[22:31] i999shadow: lol... you just do not get it :)
[22:31] x: I'm dark side from cm
[22:31] x nope I dont
[22:31] i999shadow: i am shadow-- cute wonder of the world
[22:32] i999shadow: how are you?
[22:32] x: :)
[22:32] x: I'm pretty good
[22:32] x: thank you
[22:32] x: had a tough monday though
[22:32] i999shadow: mine was pretty good for a change
[22:33] i999shadow: so what were you up to?
[22:33] x: really thats great
[22:33] x: ah sucky day at work mostly
[22:33] i999shadow: i work part time-- today was clean up the puter and get to Dr for anitbiotics
[22:33] i999shadow: now watching cartoons with son before bedtime
[22:34] i999shadow: so what's up with this need to talk like a bad Gorean Chat room domly dom?
[22:34] x: ah sounds fun
[22:34] x: a what
[22:35] i999shadow: oh- my.... Gor.as in land of... as in chudwah
[22:35] x: you're not to fond of Gor are you
[22:36] i999shadow: that "hello slave" stuff--- i am *not* your slave... i am a person--- and expect to be respected as such until such time as i negotiate a different arraingement with a dominant male that i know well enough to respect and like
[22:36] i999shadow: i think the slave positions are fun, but the lifestyle is a joke.
[22:37] x: ah
[22:37] x: wow
[22:37] i999shadow: i know a few folks in the scene that are very into Gor as a construct of their relationship...
[22:37] i999shadow: but that isn't something that i could live 24-7 in the real world, hence it's not my bag.
[22:38] i999shadow: so why the lack of respect when talking to me?
[22:38] x: where was there lack of respect
[22:39] i999shadow: how about "hello shadow"... rather than that slave  stuff.
[22:39] x: ah
[22:39] x: there was no intention of disrespecting her
[22:40] i999shadow: not her--- "you". This is not Gor.... and the 3d party thing is not appreciated.
[22:40] x: ok
[22:40] i999shadow: How long have you been out here in the world doing the M/s thing?
[22:40] x: a few days
[22:40] i999shadow: um... yeah--- i kinda thought so.
[22:41] x: yes how about you
[22:41] i999shadow: i would suggest that before you try to woo anyone on line you join a few yahoo chat groups, read the archives, get a normal book like 'screw the roses', throw out the Jon Norman fiction and hit a few real time munches...
[22:42] i999shadow: i've been out in the public scene 10 years and in the kink community for a while longer...
[22:42] i999shadow: i don't do well with newbies... i no longer have any patience..
[22:42] i999shadow: but there are some local groups that would be a good place to start... try the smOdyssey munches and web page.
[22:43] dx: sure
[22:43] i999shadow: and society of Janus in SF
[22:43] i999shadow: good luck with finding what you are really looking for...
[22:43] dx: and why the condescending attitude
[22:44] i999shadow: honey-- i have floggers older than you are... and as i have said *repeatedly*, i don't do new folks, or anyone as young as you are...
[22:44] x: of course
[22:44] i999shadow: i appreciate the thought... but i am *not* the one:)
[22:45] x: no apparently you arent
[22:45] i999shadow: (i do however have to get my son to bed now...).
[22:45] i999shadow: good luck with the hunt
[22:45] x: ok bye bye